When to tell her?....

wsrfr · Post by **wsrfr** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 3:22 pm

I met this nice lady the other night. I don't know if we will ever be a couple, but she is very nice and easy on the eyes, so I don't want to blow it with her. My question is WHEN do I tell her about my little (or maybe not so little) fetish? If I tell her later, she might get mad that I didn't tell her at the beginning. But if I do tell her right away, she may bail on me right away and I don't want that to happen. What do you guys (and lady's) suggest I do?
I have done through this many times and some understand right away and some won't even talk to me after I tell them. Have to sort of admit it is a little strange to the avg person.

Camille · Post by **Camille** » Tue Jun 12, 2007 10:53 pm

Well of course it's down to every person... But generally I think the keyword should be "slow". Give subtle hints, compliments, observe her reaction then decide whether to go on. Compliments will get you very far. But not only about feet, of course. That would be the same like saying "I have a foot fetish". If you rush, you ruin everything.

But you say you have done this many times. How did it work for you before?

Crowe · Post by **Crowe** » Wed Jun 13, 2007 3:17 am

Take it slow. If the average guy told the girl on their 2nd date that "I like your breasts...", don't you think she'd be pissed off?

pumplover · Post by **pumplover** » Fri Jun 15, 2007 8:32 pm

yeah take it slow.....it took me almost a year to tell my future wife....but i integrated it into a conversation about the parts of the body that we like d the most on men and women

diplover74 · Post by **diplover74** » Fri Jun 15, 2007 11:57 pm

well i agree, take it slow.
A few years back i was dating this girl and i never told her but everytime we were "warming up", there would be a foot massage or some leg & feet kissing or licking.
She never asked and i never told...eheheh

i didn't work because she was married with another guy not because of my fetish...

llegster · Post by **llegster** » Mon Jun 18, 2007 3:27 pm

When you are dealing with a non-mainstrem type of fetish (like breasts, and butts) many women become scared. But after awhile if you act subtly and slowly let her catch you glimpsing quickly at her feet. SHE will think that it might please you and, if she loves you and think that you love her, she might try something to make you happy. This has been my experience. Take it slow and let her think that it was her idea to do this action

Derikpr · Post by **Derikpr** » Fri Jul 27, 2007 4:43 am

study your girl , like the other says take it slowly, but if you gained her trust you can Ask what type of suttf she likes, just take your time

pumplover · Post by **pumplover** » Fri Jul 27, 2007 3:17 pm

Also, i had another friend that it took knowing her for almost 3 years before I told her, but then she was really comfortable with me and thought it was neat. She would tell me stories of her mom shoeplaying suring church and send me pictures of women shoeplaying in my email.