advice would be appreciated

Footfan6 · Post by **Footfan6** » Thu Jan 17, 2013 7:50 pm

I have this friend who I'm pretty much in love with, and she asked me pretty recently what my fetishes are. Not knowing what to tell her, I kind of changed the subject. She's known for having a kinky sense of humor, and once even jokingly told one of our mutual friend to suck her toes. Still, I'm not sure if she'd be okay with it, because she always wears sneakers or boots, and I've never seen her feet. I'm also interested in why she asked me what fetishes I have.

Thoughts?

hiker · Post by **hiker** » Thu Jan 17, 2013 9:53 pm

She sounds like a very open minded girl!

My friend, she's already done all of the work for you! She lobbed one to you, and it was the perfect opportunity to hit it out of the park!

My advice would be this: The next time she asks you if you have any fetishes, feel free to tell her, but do so in a tactful and playful manner. Tell her (with confidence and matter of factly) that you think pretty feet are sexy (emphasize "pretty"). Keep your head up, speak with confidence, look her in the eyes and don't mumble.

She will inevitably either ask you if you like to suck toes (since she has experience with this), to which you reply "only if the girl has very nice feet".... or, she'll ask you if you think she has pretty feet and present them to you. I don't care how perfect her feet are, don't let on. Just playfully say, "Eh, they're OK".... again, with confidence. Maybe even throw a slight dig at her by telling her it might help if she took care of her feet by painting her toes (if she doesn't have polish). She will likely argue that she thinks her feet are pretty. At this point, she's yours.... let her come to you. Let her try to sell the appeal of her feet to you.

She might even ask you to massage her feet or suck her toes. If she does, don't give in. That IS NOT your cue to dive at her feet with wide eyes while foaming at the mouth. Tell her that's a privilege she has to earn. If she's as "kinky" as you say, she will plead her case. Every girl wants to feel attractive and desirable. Make HER try to convince YOU that she is.

It's important to remember, just because she asked you if you have any fetishes doesn't necessarily mean she wants to get with you. She may just be trying to have a conversation. You still have to manipulate the conversation to get her to come to you.

Most importantly, have confidence.

Good luck and let us know how it goes!

The-Shoeplay-Warehouse · Fri Jan 18, 2013 4:36 am

Hiker is awesome.

Post by **nyllover** » Fri Jan 18, 2013 11:58 am

Totally agree with hiker. Next time the subject comes up, do what he suggests.

But DONT bring up the subject, let her do it again.

hiker · Post by **hiker** » Fri Jan 18, 2013 5:41 pm

I agree with Nyllover in that you shouldn't bring up the topic of fetishes.

However, I fear that your window of opportunity may have closed, in which case you'll have to open it again.... tactfully. I would do this by turning or steering the topic of conversation to sexual attraction.

Maybe ask her something like, "I was watching Mr. & Mrs. Smith the other day. I just don't get the attraction of Angelina Jolie (add any movie/actress). I mean, she's got killer legs, but I just don't get it." She'll likely ask you if you like legs and you can reply with "yeah, among other things". If she's asks what those other things are, reply with "wouldn't you like to know?" in a playful manner. When she keeps pushing the subject, gently and playfully push her and say, "stop trying to sleep with me". Then you seg into what I wrote above.

This is just an example, but I think you get the picture.

And again... remember.... HAVE CONFIDENCE. Don't be Mr. creepy trench coat wearing foot fetish guy. Believe me, they are out there. Remember.... you have a fondness for pretty feet, not a foot fetish. It's really just semantics, but it's about perception, and perception drives reality.

Footfan6 · Post by **Footfan6** » Sat Jan 19, 2013 4:29 pm

Thanks for the advice! I'll be sure to remember it if another situation comes up. She's kind of the girl of my dreams and sex honestly isn't my main focus with her, as much as just growing closer to her and making her feel loved, but it would really suck if an aversion to my preferences would turn her off. But for the most part, she seems pretty cool about it.

Footfan6 · Post by **Footfan6** » Sat Feb 23, 2013 6:57 pm

I don't like to post twice in a row in one thread, but I have an update: I saw her bare feet for the first time when we talked on webcam. I think I remember her toes being painted even though she never wears any open-toed shoes. Unfortunately, she now has a boyfriend. I was too late to ask her out

Footsiefreak · Post by **Footsiefreak** » Sun Feb 24, 2013 1:44 am

Continue to be her friend and when she breaks up with her boyfriend ask her out.

Footfan6 · Post by **Footfan6** » Sun Feb 24, 2013 1:59 am

Yeah, that's pretty much my plan. Let's see if I grow the balls necessary to ask her out next time.

Footsiefreak · Post by **Footsiefreak** » Sun Feb 24, 2013 5:19 pm

You should always go for it the guys who get the womwn are the ones who have no fear.